Why boudoir is a feminist act

I absolutely consider myself a feminist.  I believe we are all equal.  We all deserve to be treated the same, paid the same, and have the same benefits.  That being said, men and women are different creatures with different needs, wants and desires.  Women are often treated as though our needs and desires are bad or shameful.  That double standard (sex is good for men, but bad for women) is so pervasive in our world that it colors how we perceive everything.

 

Many have questioned me about boudoir.  I have been told I am objectifying women, and holding women back by making them sexual objects.  That simply isn’t true.

 

Objectification happens when a person is looked at or treated like an object by someone else.  Objectification is done by one person to another with out their consent.

 

Boudoir is an experience.

 

It’s about claiming your own sexuality, and choosing to showcase it in the manner you deem fit.  It’s about embracing an aspect of your true self, and allowing that one aspect to be free for a time.  It’s about femininity, and the things that make us women.  Most women have breasts.  Women have hips and thighs, and other body parts.  Embracing, loving and showcasing your own body parts is empowering, not objectifying. Women are soft, vulnerable, beautiful, elegant, shy, coy, daring, brave, sexual, loving, kind, provocative…

 

We are many things.

 

Boudoir isn’t just about what we look like, but also about feeling, emotion, texture, mystery, confidence…

 

It’s about everything that goes into making us who and what we are.

 

Boudoir is a feminist act because we are claiming our own bodies and our own souls.  We are CHOOSING how we are seen, and how we see ourselves.  We are making a choice to be vulnerable in a positive way. We are choosing to be ourselves and embrace everything about us that makes us women.

 

Boudoir is an act of bravery.

Women supporting women

As you may know, March is Women’s History month.  And let’s face it, there are a LOT of amazing women throughout history.  As a sex, we’ve done some pretty some amazing things, despite being second class citizens for the majority of our time on this earth.  And those of us here in the United States have it very good, because there are many places in the world were women are not nearly as lucky.

The one thing that I find unfortunate about our current society is that we spend so much time judging one another, and so little time supporting each other.  We judge other women for their clothing choices, their lifestyle choices, their mates, their jobs, etc.  I choose to be different.

I choose to support and uplift my female counterparts.  We are all capable of amazing things, but we need to be reminded that we are capable of them.  Sometimes our worst critics are the voices inside our heads.  We can overcome those voices, but a little outside encouragement sure helps to drown them out.

We need to cheer each other on, celebrate each other’s achievements, and help each other to rise above.  That is how we make history.