Do the damn thing

It’s a new year which can mean new beginnings.  Often it doesn’t.  Change is hard and we often have the desire to do it, but don’t take the action required to follow through on that desire.  I know I’ve been guilty of exactly that many times over.  It seems like we need to be just totally over something before we take the necessary steps to change it.  Not a little done, not just tired of it.  We have to be absolutely, over the top, beyond finished with living a certain way before we will make real change in our lives.

Do you know why that is?  I do.

It’s a combination of fear and complacency.  We don’t really want to do to do the work that it’ll take to make whatever change it is, and we’re terrified of what will happen if we actually succeed.  What if lose the weight?  Will my friends still be my friends?  What if I start that dream job?  Will I find out it isn’t really my dream?  Or worse yet, what if I make the money I want to make?  Will it make me a bad person?

Fear and complacency.

I personally am a little bit of a perfectionist.  I tend to feel like I need to plan things out fully before I begin them, and they can’t be shown to the world until they are perfect.  Do you know what that results in?  Nothing.  Absolutely nothing.  I let all those little details get in the way of actually accomplishing the thing I wanted to accomplish.  If I don’t have it all planned out, I never start it.  If I start it, I don’t finish it because it’s not good enough.  This year, I’m not letting perfection get in the way anymore.

What does that mean exactly?

It means more blog posts with typos.  It means an education series I’ve been sitting on for at least the last year will finally see that light of day.  It means putting myself out there with all my imperfect-ness.  It means showing up more, and spending less time on getting there.  It means doing the damn thing, whatever that thing is.

I challenge you to join me in this, to call me out if you see me failing to show up. I challenge you to show up more for yourself, and whatever thing you’ve been putting off doing because you think you’re not ready, to do the damn thing anyway.

I’ve been doing this mom thing as a single mom for almost three years now, and you know what the number one thing I’ve learned is?  That showing up with passion means more than having it be perfect; every. single. time.  That fast food on the way to an awesome experience is enough, because the experience matters more than what we eat for that one meal.  Running a few minutes late to the Christmas pageant is okay, because I still made it to see my baby do their part.  Showing up, and being fully present in the moment, is the most important part.

I show up for my kids, and I show up for others everyday and this year I’m gonna do a whole lot more showing up for myself.  Will you join me? Will you do the damn thing already?