The Happiness Myth – make your choice

Marketing is this world is designed to always have us searching for the next thing that will provide us happiness.  We are told that we “need” those new shoes, that shade of lipstick, this perfect dress, that juicy hamburger, this scrumptious looking piece of cheesecake, all the while telling us that it’s the consumption of things that will bring up happiness.  Now, we’re all smart enough to know that things don’t bring happiness.  But the underlying subtle message is that happiness is found outside of ourselves…

We buy into that idea much of time.  Look at romantic comedies in which the boy gets the girl.  “She makes me happy,” is a phrase we hear all the time.  And while relationships with others contribute to our happiness, they aren’t the true source of it.  It lies within us.  At our core, we choose if we are happy or not.  Outside factors may influence our feelings (sometimes far more than they should) but happiness is a choice.  We make that choice every single day.  We choose who we surround ourselves with, be they people who add to our joy, or detract from it.  We choose to embrace a new day, or to disdain it.  We choose to feel good in our own skin, or be miserable there.

Now, we all have bad days.  Sometimes everything just seems to be going wrong, and that’s OK.  It’s okay to temporarily lose your sense of joy.  But don’t bring the stakes and set up camp in that place.  When we do that, we rob of ourselves of a full life, and we rob those we love.  I think the greatest gift we can give to someone we care about is our sense of happiness and joy.  Happiness is infectious, but so is despair.  Do you want to lift others up, or pull them down?  Do you want to be the catapult for your children, or the anchor?

Sometimes happiness means making hard choices.  Sometimes it means cutting people and places from your life.  Sometimes it means changing part of who you are, by taking a deep, hard look at the person you’ve become and the choices you’ve made.  This is something I’ve spent a lot of time doing the last few years, and a big part of why this blog has been so quiet.  Sometimes we have to find ourselves, and re-define ourselves to fully be us.  After a lot of soul-searching and major life changes, I know exactly who am, why I am here, and what I want to accomplish in this life.  I choose happiness, today and everyday.  I choose to make the tough decisions to protect and amplify my happiness, and I choose to be a catapult for my children to find their happiness.

Creation is a huge part of me, and in keeping my happiness in balance.  This work (boudoir) is the creation that most feeds my soul, because I get to watch how it feeds yours.  I get to watch as you see yourself through my lens, for the beautiful, sexy, fierce, amazing person that you are.  I love watching you blossom and I’m looking forward to serving you in that endeavor for a long time to come.  Thanks for being here. 🙂


Why I am no longer satisfied with “the norm”, and what I’m doing about it.

It’s a new year, which for me means it’s time to re-evaluate where I am, what I want and how I intend to get there.  I’ve had a lot of changes in my personal life in the last year, the main one being that I decided to end my marriage, a relationship that had lasted 20 years.  Regardless of your feelings about divorce and marriage, there comes a time in every woman’s life when you find yourself unhappy and off track, and you have to make a major change of some kind.

The biggest change I’m making this year: I’m no longer accepting anything just because it’s what everyone else does.  Lots of people are unhappy for a myriad of reasons, and they choose to stay that way because they fear the unknown or because it’s too much work.  I refuse to live my life by default.  I truly believe that we all have the power to change our circumstances, and it’s all about mindset.

I choose to believe I am capable, beautiful, and worth it.  I choose to believe that I can have anything I want in this world, and I choose to believe that you can too.

They say that a rising tide raises all ships, and I believe that to be true.  My mission here at Alter Ego Imaging is to provide a fun, safe environment for you to connect with and embrace your inner self, and to have an emotional and empowering experience that transcends the physical.  It’s in the service of that mission, that I invite you to get to know me better, and grow with me this new year.